Courtesy

A’uzubillahi minashaitonir rojeem, Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem, Allahumma Solli wa Sallim wa Baarik ‘ala Sayidina Muhammadin wa ‘ala aalihi wa sohbihi ajma’in…

Jabir ibn ‘AbdAllah al-Ansari relates that the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. said, “It is part of the good behaviour of the prophets and the truthful that when they see each other they are filled with joy, and when they meet they shake hands. The man who visits for the sake of Allah has a right over the person he visists- namely, that he be treated generously.”

Respect your friends and show your respect for them…. A man entered the mosque when the Messenger s.a.w. was alone. The Messenger s.a.w. got up to show him respect. When the man protested, the Messenger s.a.w. responded that to be paid respect is the right of the beilever. (al-Sulami, The Way of Sufi Chivalry)

Courtesy is based on the recognition that the dignity of the human state is not limited to oneself, nor to those who are great or fascinating or powerful in worldly terms. Every human being is an expression of the human essence, the fitrah; therefore every human being is, potentially, khalifah, Allah’s fully-empowered representative in this world, whether or not he or she is faithful to this Trust.

We can never know for sure whether a particular person is living up to their responsibility as a khalifah, or betraying it. When after the Prophet s.a.w. took Mecca, his former sworn enemies like Abu Sufyan and Hind, embraced Islam, no one could be blamed for wondering their sincerity. Yet to openly question that sincerity would have been the height of discourtesy. We can never know the secret of the relation between another human soul and its Creator; this is the origin of the Muslim blessing “may Allah preserve his secret”. In the words of the Prophet: “Do not look for the faults of the believers. Whoever seeks after the faults of his brother, then Allah will seek after his faults; and whoever Allah looks for in search of his faults then He will discover, even if he is hidden in his house.”

During gatherings begin your own meal only after everyone else has started eating. Muhammad ibn Ya’qub al-Asamm reports that the father of Ja’far ibn Muhammad said, “Whenever the Prophet s.a.w. ate with others, he was the last one to begin eating.” The Prophet s.a.w. said, “You will never be able to meet the demands of people with your wealth, so mee them with your courtesy and manners.”

Dhu’l Nun al-Misri said, “A person who does in secret what he would be ashamed to do in public has no self respect; in fact, he does not even consider himself a living being.”

(From the Book of Character by Camille Helminski)
Wallahu ‘alam….

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بسْم الله الرّحْمن الرّحيم، اللّهمّ صلِّ على سيّدنا محمّدٍ وآله

 وصحْبه وسلِّم

 

“Indeed, Allah confers blessing upon the Prophet, and His angels [ask Him to do so]. O you who have believed, ask [ Allah to confer] blessing upon him and ask [ Allah to grant him] peace.” al-Ahzab : 56

In this verse, the believer (mu’minuun) is commanded to ask Allah to bless the Prophet. The command was not to the muslimuun. Thus, it is part of iman/faith to seek blessing for the Prophet upon whom be peace as the mu’min is the possessor of iman.

It is related that a person’s iman/faith is not perfected until The Prophet and Allah is more beloved to him than anything else including himself. Indeed the sign of love is the frequent remembrance of the beloved and sending blessings to him(the Prophet pbuh).  

Ibn Mas’ud reported that the Messenger of Allah said, “The dearest of the people to me on the Resurrection Day will be the foremeost of them in sending blessings to me.” Abu Sa’labh reported that the Messenger of Allah said, “The dearest to me among you and the nearest to me among you on the Resurrection Day will be one who is best of you in character (akhlak).” Thus we can see here that good character is related to how often a person send blessings to the Messenger of Allah. The more someone remembers (and blesses) him in his/her daily activities, the person’s character will be gentler, loving and closer to the character traits of the Prophet. The more a person follows in the footsteps of the Prophet, the closer he gets to Allah and the more Allah loves him/her. 

“A man is with whom he loves (in the hereafter)” -hadith

Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah said, “Whoso sends blessing on me, Allah sends on him ten blessings, and ten sins are put off from him and ten ranks are raised up for him.” It is related that one blessing from Allah on a person outweighs  on the scale, all the Devotional acts (excluding solawat on the Prophet) of the whole population of man and jinns.  It is interesting to note that ‘good character will be the heaviest thing which will be placed on the balance/scale of a believer on the Resurrection Day’ in a hadith related by Abu Darda’a. Again the connection between good character and sending blessings and greetings to the Prophet pbuh.

‘Ayesha reported that the Messenger of Allah said, “The believer reaches by his good character, the position/rank of one who stands up (praying in) the night and fasts (in) the day.” And good character comes when someone follows the Prophet pbuh in every movement and stillness, and one will put in the commitment to follow the Prophet pbuh when there is love for him and the desire to get closer to Allah.

Ibn Wahb related that the Prophet said, “Whoever asks for peace on me ten times, it is as if he had freed a slave.” Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah said, “I will hear whoever blesses me at my grave. If someone is far away and blesses me, that is also conveyed to me.”

It is related that a certain pious man saw in a dream the Messenger of Allah in the company of the Saints of Allah whom took his hand and kissed his blessed hand while he sat. Later a man came and the Messenger of Allah stood up for him, kissed him on his forehead and made him sit by his side. The dreamer asked the Messenger of Allah about the man’s deed which gain him such an honour and the Messenger said that the man always encouraged people with all his effort to send abundant blessings to the Prophet pbuh.

It is also said that if one were to ask the Saints of Allah, those of the past and present, how did they reached (closeness to Allah/sainthood), they will say,  “We reached by intense love of the Messenger of Allah!” This is as man is too weak to approach Allah without a intermediary(perantaraan), Allah created for man from their species an intermediary as a mercy/blessing for them!

More Hadiths :

  • “Do a lot of prayer on me on Friday. Your prayer is shown to me.”
  • “There is no Muslim who blesses me but an angel conveys it to me and names him.”
  • “A miser is someone who does not bless me when I am mentioned in his presence.”
  • “Whoever forgets to pray on me, forgets the path to the Garden.”
  • “Dust be upon the face of  the man who does not bless me when I am mentioned in his presence.”

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It is indeed heavy for the lower self, to bless another person as it is in its nature to be self-centred. Thus, in the beginning, the lower-self must get to know the Messenger of Allah pbuh, his sacrifices, his character, his rank with Allah, proofs of his Prophethood etc. The lower self then by the Grace of Allah gains the light of faith and becomes purified by stages. ‘You shall truly travel from stage to stage’ al-Inshiqaq :19. As we have clarified earlier the degree of love for the Prophet pbuh increases with the increase in faith/iman until when the lower self has been completely purified from self-centredness/interest (its love for itself).

Now the lower self has been transformed to the serene self (nafs al-mutmainnah) and loves the Messenger of Allah more than itself (may we be among them!), it experiences states whereby it is annhilated in the Messenger pbuh until it is established for him as a station. The acts, stillness, states of the person is the sunna, the Qur’an. This was alluded to by Shaykh ibn ‘Arabi when he said that ‘Shaykh Suhrawardi was dressed in the sunna from head to toe”.

 Such a person is an inheritor of the light of Prophethood. Its light shines from his outward and inward, when he/she is seen Allah is remembered. May Allah admit us among them! amin.

 

 1&2 – Compiled from various sources

Respect and Esteem for The Prophet

بسْم الله الرّحْمن الرّحيم، اللّهمّ صلِّ على سيّدنا محمّدٍ وآله

 وصحْبه وسلِّم

‘Amr ibn al-‘As said, “There is none I have loved more than the Messenger of Allah nor anyone I have respected more. I could never get my fill of looking at him due to my great respect for him. If I had been asked to describe him, i could not have done so because I was unable to look at him enough.” 

“O you who have believed, do not raise your voices above the voice of the Prophet or be loud to him in speech like the loudness of some of you to others, lest your deeds become worthless while you perceive not.” 49:2

Al-Mughira said, “The Companions of the Messenger of Allah pbuh would knock on his door with their fingernails.” When Quraysh gave Saiyidina ‘Uthman permission to do tawaf  of the Ka’bah when the Prophet sent him as an envoy to them and he refused, saying, “I will not do it until the Messenger of Allah does.”

Anas said, “I saw the Messenger of Allah when his hair was being shaved. His companions were around him and whenever a lock fell, a man picked it up”

Mus’ab ibn ‘Abdullah said, “When the Prophet was mentioned, Malik would grow pale so that it distressed those with him. One day he was asked about this. He said, “If you had seen what I have seen, you would not be suprised at what you see me do. I used to see Muhammad ibn Munkadir, the master of the Qur’an reciters. Almost every time he was asked about a hadith, he wept until his eyes were red. I saw Ja’far ibn Muhammad who joked and laughed a lot, but when the Prophet was mentioned in his presence, he grew pale. I never saw him relate a hadith of the Messenger of Allah except in a state of ritual purity. I frequented him for a time and only saw him doing one of three things – praying, fasting, or reciting Qur’an. He only spoke about what concerned him. He was one of the men of knowledge and those who fear Allah.

‘Amir ibn ‘Abdullah would weep when the Prophet was mentioned until he had no more tears to weep while Safwan ibn Sulayman would weep until people got up and left him.

‘Abdullah ibn Mubarak said, “I was with Malik when he was teaching us hadith. A scorpion stung him sixteen times. He changed colour and grew quite pale, but did not interrupt the hadiths of the Messenger of Allah. When he finished and the people departed, I said to him, ‘Abu ‘Abdullah! I saw you do something extraordinary today!’ He said, ‘Yes, I endured it out of respect for the Messenger of Allah.'”

Jabir ibn ‘Abdullah said, “Every stone or tree that the Prophet passed prostrated to him.” ‘Ali said, “We were in Makka with the Messenger of Allah and he went to one of its districts and every single tree and mountain he passed said to him, ‘Peace be upon you, Messenger of Allah.’ “

Lifeless, brainless stones, inanimate objects, animals greeted the Messenger of Allah while we don’t send blessings and prayers to him when his name is mentioned, truly we have hearts harder than stones. May Allah aid us so that we say the selawats with love and esteem. Amin

It is related that Safiyya bint Najda said, “Abu Madhura had a lock of hair at the front of his head which touched the groun when he sat down. He was asked, ‘Why don’t you cut it off?’ He said, ‘I will not cut off something that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, touched with his hand.'” Ibn ‘Umar was seen to place his hand on the seat of the Prophet in the minbar and then place it on his face.

The famous story of the crazy camel which went amok in a garden: Tha’laba ibn Malik relates, “No one entered the garden without the camel attacking him. When the Prophet entered the garden, he called it and the camel put its mouth on the ground and knelt before him. He put a halter on it. He said, ‘There is nothing between the heavens and the earth which does not know that I am the Messenger of Allah except for the rebels among the jinn and men.’ “

May our respect and esteem for The Messenger of Allah peace be upon him increase with every blessing and prayer we sent to him. May all our actions be based upon his way, may he be pleased with our actions, pleased with our states as pleasing him is pleasing Allah. May our hearts be purified so that his presence can be felt upon every salam we sent to him. May our hearts be purified further such that the veil is lifted everytime we send salams to him and his blessed presence is seen with the eye of the heart. May our hearts be purified further such that none of our nafs remain and only the light of the Prophet shine from within and without. Amin Amin Amin Ya Rabbal ‘alamiin!!! 

 

 

 

Love for The Prophet

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem, Alhamdulillahi Wasolatu Wasalaamu ‘ala Sayidina Muhammadin wa ‘ala aalihi wasohbihie fi kulli lamhatin wa nafasin…

The necessity of loving the Prophet

Say, [O Muhammad], “If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, wealth which you have obtained, commerce wherein you fear decline, and dwellings with which you are pleased are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger and jihad in His cause, then wait until Allah executes His command. And Allah does not guide the defiantly disobedient people.” (9:24)

This is enough encouragement, advice, proof and indication of the necessity of loving him and is sufficient to show that this duty is an immediate important obligation which is the Prophet’s right.

Anas reported that the Prophet pbuh said, “None of you will believe until I am more beloved to him than his children, his father and all people.”

The Reward of loving him

The Prophet pbuh  said, “You will be with the one you love.” That is on the Day of Rising, in the hereafter. “And whoever obeys Allah and the Messenger – those will be with the ones upon whom Allah has bestowed favor of the prophets, the steadfast affirmers of truth, the martyrs and the righteous. And excellent are those as companions.” 4:69

Thus if one loves the Prophet and obeys him and Allah’s commands and prohibitions will be with the Prophet in heaven.

The Signs of love

  1. Emulation, following his way, his sunna, his words and deeds, obeying his commands and avoiding his prohibitions and taking on his adab in ease and hardship, joy and despair. Say, [O Muhammad], “If you should love Allah , then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” 3:31
  2. He will prefer what the Prophet has laid down as law and encouraged, over his own passions and appetites. Allah said, “And [also for] those who were settled in al-Madinah and [adopted] the faith before them. They love those who emigrated to them and find not any want in their breasts of what the emigrants were given but give [them] preference over themselves, even though they are in privation. And whoever is protected from the stinginess of his soul – it is those who will be the successful.” 59:9
  3. His anger against people will only be for the sake of the pleasure of Allah. Anas ibn Malik said, “The Messenger of Allah said to me, ‘My son, if you can be without any grudge in your heart against anyone in the morning and evening, be like that.’ Then he added, ‘My son, that is part of my way/sunna. Whoever gives life to my sunna has loved me and whoever loves me is with me in the Garden.”
  4. Another of the signs of love for the Prophet is to mention him often.
  5. Another is great yearning to meet him. Every lover yearns for their beloved.
  6. One of its sign is that as well as mentioning him often, someone who loves him will exalt and respect him when he mentions him and display humility and abasement when he hears his name. Ishaq at-Tujibi said, “Whenever the Companions of the Prophet heard his name after he passed away, they were humble , their skins trembled nad they wept. It was the same with many of the Followers. Some of them act like that out of love and  yearning for him, others out of respect and esteem.”
  7. Love for those who love him and the people of his house and his Companions, both the Muhajirun and the Ansars, for his sake. Such a person will be hostile to those who hate them and curse them.
  8. Hatred for anyone who hates Allah and His Messenger, having enmity towards all who have enmity towards him , avoidance of all those who oppose his sunna and introduce innovations into his deen,  and finding every matter contrary to his shari’a burdensome. You will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even if they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their kindred…-58:22
  9. Love for the Quran which was brought by the Prophet, by which he guided and was guided, and whose character he took on so that ‘A’isha said, “His character was the Quran”. ibn Mas’ud said, “No one needs to ask himself anything except the Qur’an. If he loves the Qur’an, he loves Allah and His Messenger.”
  10. To have compassion for his community, giving them good counsel, striving for their best interests and removing what is harmful from them just as the Prophet was “compassionate, merciful to the believers.” 9:128
  11. The final sign is that the one who aspires to it does without in this world and prefers poverty. The person is content with little from this world. The Prophet said, “Poverty for those among you who loves me comes quicker than a flood from the top of the mountain to the bottom.”

The excerpts from the earlier posts and this post on the Messenger of Allah are taken from the book Ash-Shifa of Qadi ‘Iyad translated by ‘Aisha Abdarrahman Bewley.

His Praiseworthy Qualities…

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem, Alhamdulillahi Wasolatu Wasalaamu ‘ala Sayidina Muhammadin wa ‘ala aalihi wasohbihie fi kulli lamhatin wa nafasin…

The Messenger of Allah had the complete package, he was honoured with the dress of physical beauty as well as beautiful qualities in his character. This is Allah’s way in attracting us to follow his footsteps for our own salvation. His wondrous character traits are for us to emulate/follow not just to marvel at. Our intention of following him is solely to get closer to Allah not for praise or anything else insha-Allah. Amin

‘A’isha said, “The Messenger of Allah did not take a revenge for himself unless the honour (kehormatan) of Allah was violated. Then he would take revenge for the sake of Allah.”

The Messenger of Allah pbuh forgave the Jewess who had poisoned him with the mutton after she had confessed to the poisoning. He did not punish Labid bin al-‘Azam when he used black magic against him although the Messenger pbuh was informed about it. He never hit a servant or a woman. He was slow at getting angry and when he got angry he was quick to cool down.

He had no equal in generosity and liberality. He gave a hundred camels to more than one person, a valley full of sheep and he gave al-‘Abbas so much gold that he could not carry it. 90 000 dirhams was brought to him and he placed them on a mat and distributed it. When someone worked for him he would give as wage more than what was promised. He had no fear of poverty nor did he had any attachment to wealth. Mu’awwidh ibn ‘Afra said, “I brought the Prophet pbuh, a plate of cucumber and fresh dates, and he gave me a handful of jewelery and gold.”

He was the most courageous of men. When the Muslims were retreating during a battle, he began to gallop his mule towards the unbelievers. He was the closest to the enemy. He was so brave that any man who fought near him in a battle was brave. The one who truly fears Allah alone fears nothing while everything fear and is in awe of him.

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri said, “The Messenger of Allah pbuh was more modest (shy) than a secluded virgin. When he disliked something, we recognised it on his face.” He was extremely sensitive in his character. He did not say anything to a person which that person would dislike out of his modesty and generosity.” Anas related that a man came to the Prophet with a trace of saffron on him. The Prophet did not say anything to him since he never confronted anyone with something  they would dislike. When he left, the Prophet said, “Could you tell him to wash it off?”  ‘A’isha said, “I never ever saw the private parts of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.”

In his social interaction, the Prophet always made people feel that no one had been shown more honour than he i.e. the person he interacted with. Ibn Abi Hala described him, “He was always joyful with an easy disposition. He was gentle, neither gruff nor rude.” He never complained about food, he simply left it if he did not want it. He would fulfill an invitation even from a slave and he would accept a gift as low as a sheep’s trotter.

Anas said, “I served the Messenger of Allah pbuh for ten years and he never said ‘Uff”! to me. He did not say about anything I had done, ‘Why did you do it?’ or about anything I had not done, ‘Why didn’t you do it?’ ” He would visit the sick in the furthest part of the city and he accepted the excuse of anyone who offered an excuse.

Anas said, “When anyone spoke in the ear of the Messenger of Allah, he would not move his head away until the man first moved his. When anyone took his hand, he would not let go his hand until the one who had taken it let go. He was not seen to put his knees in front of anyone who was sitting beside him.

There are many more praiseworthy traits which we will write in the next post if Allah wills. Indeed he was “sent to complete the praiseworthy character traits.” May Allah help us in following his sunna. May Allah increase our desire/vigour to follow his sunna. May we gain his shafa’ah by Allah’s will. Amin…

His Daily Life

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem, Allahumasolli ‘ala Sayidina Muhammadin wa ‘ala Aalihi Wasohbihie wa Sallim fi kulli Waqtin Wahiin…

A’isha r.a. said, “The Prophet Muhammad may Allah bless him and grant him peace, never filled his stomach completely. When he was with his family, he did not ask them for food nor desire it. If they fed it to him, he ate. He accepted whatever they served him and he drank whatever they gave him to drink.” When he sits to eat he did not sit with a settled posture nor does he lean on anything. He sat squatting, as someone ready to get up. This is because someone who sits in a settled posture or reclines, for instance cross-legged or in some other comfortable manner demands food and seeks a lot of it. 

The Prophet pbuh said, “The kind of food which I prefer is that with many hands in it”. Meaning, he prefers to eat with as many companions, sharing his food. This helps one to eat less and also increases ties of friendship.

It is said that he slept little and ‘his eyes slept but his heart does not sleep’. He used to sleep on his right side in order to be able to sleep less (heavily) because sleeping on the right side is easier for the heart as it inclines to the left side.

The Prophet pbuh said, “He (Allah) made me love in this world of yours, women, scent and the coolness of my eye is in prayer,” and then he indicated that his love and occupation with women was not for the benefit of his worldly life but beacause marriage benefits a person’s life in the next world in that it helps to lower the eye (from looking at women) and protects the private parts. Thus he set an example for the benefit of his followers. He did not marry out of desire, his first wife Sayidatina Khadija was forty and he was 25 when they got married and Sayidatina Khadija was the one who proposed to him. He did not marry again until several years passed after Khadija’s passing that too was due to selfless reasons.

He pbuh, loved to put on scents for the sake of the angels and others.
Thus his love for women and scents were for the benefit of others while his true love lay in witnessing the jabarut of his Lord and intimate conversation with Him. That is why he made a distinction between the two loves and separated the two conditions saying, “and the delight of my eye is in the prayer.”Happy are those who follow in his footsteps

The Prophet pbuh had been given the ability to satisfy the needs of women and he visited his wives in one hour of the day or night, and there were eleven of them. He pleased them well although he himself can do without them.

In dealing with wealth, he was given the treasures of the earth and the keys to the lands. He conquered the Hijaz, the Yemen and all of the Arabian Peninsula, as well as the areas bordering Syria and Iraq. He was brought a fifth of the booty as well as the jizya-tax and zakat-tax. He was also given gifts by kings but he did not keep any of this for himself nor withold a single dirham of it . He spent it all in its proper channels, enriched others with it and strengthened the Muslims by it . In todays context, he would have been a multi-millionaire but he only ate barley bread with salt and ashes and when he returned to Allah his armor was in pawn to feed his family.

The Prophet who was the Beloved of Allah hated bad character even before his Prophethood. He suffered and endured persecution, blame, insults just so that his followers would learn forbearance, patience from his example. May Allah help us to continue writing on his beautiful and wondrous traits. May Allah ta’ala lift the veil so that we can see the Prophet in this life itself. May we be among those who bring benefit to his ummah/followers. May we be among those who please Allah and His beloved Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him. Amin Amin amin…

Read again while listening to this…May the love blossom in our hearts and tears of longing wet our cheeks…

The Prophet Muhammad’s (pbuh) Sorrow

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem…

Abu Hurairah relates the following, “I was with Sayidina Umar on our way to the house of Sayidina Abu Bakar As-siddiq after ‘Isha prayers when we passed by the door of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and we heard sobs and cries from within. We stopped for a moment. We heard his voice (pbuh) crying: “Ahh…if only I could live to see what my people will do to their daily prayers. Ahh…I am truly disappointed by them”

“Oh Abu Hurairah, let us knock on the door”,  said Umar r.a. . Umar knocks on the door. “Who is that?” ‘Aisyah r.a. called out. “Abu Hurairah and I” replied ‘Umar. We sought permission to enter and she permitted. upon entering we saw the Prophet (pbuh) prostrating on the ground in grief, saying whilst in prostration: “O my Lord, thou art my Protector for my people therefore act on them with what suiteth thy Attribute (The Merciful) and don’t act on them with what suiteth their deeds”.

“O Messenger of Allah, my parents be ransom for thee, what has happened such that you have became terribly grieved?”

“O ‘Umar, on my way to ‘Aisyah house after praying in the mosque, Gabriel a.s. came and said, “O Muhammad! Allah sends His Salutations to you!”. After which he said, “Read!”

“What shall I read?”

“Read:

“But after them there followed a posterity who missed prayers and followed after lusts soon, then, will they face Destruction,” – 19:59

“O Gabriel, will my followers neglect their prayers after my demise?”, asked the Prophet pbuh.

“Yes, O Messenger of Allah, in the End Times a large group of your nation will neglect the ritual prayers, delay their prayers till the time for the prayer has expired and these follow their lusts/lowly desires. These are the ones to whom a dinar (a meagre amount of money) is more valuable than their prayers.”

-Excerpt from Solatul Muqorrrobin by Habib Hassan Bin Soleh Al-Jufri Al-Bahr